This week’s WFMW is a “Greatest Tips” edition, meaning that we link to our best tip ever. This is definitely mine – I get the most Google hits to my blog based on this post. My mom passed away in July, and I wrote this the week after to give people some ideas of ways to help. I hope it’s something that you can use!
Since we’ve just been through this with the death of my mom last week, I thought it would be a good time to share some things that really “worked for us.” And I just couldn’t come up with a decent title for this, so please excuse it’s awkwardness.
There were SO many people who stopped by the house with food – meat trays, fruit trays, casseroles, etc. – and that was so very appreciated. It is such a huge blessing not to have to worry about food when you’re dealing with the death of a loved one. Plus, other family members come and go throughout the week, so it’s nice to have something to offer people when they’re over.
In addition to the food we received, we also got lots of other great stuff to help us out, so I thought I’d pass these ideas along as alternatives to “dinner” food…some of these are food ideas, but maybe different than what you’d usually think to bring. And, maybe everyone else has thought of these ideas but me, but here they are anyway:
*Coolers full of drinks, which was a big help, since there was so much family in and out through the week. We just kept these in the garage, and always had something to offer guests.
*Snacky-type foods, like homemade salsa and chips, and stuff that was easy to pick up and eat like little tortilla wraps and veggie pizza.
*Breakfast food. Always a hit. We had egg casseroles and biscuits and gravy.
*Paper products, including cups, plates, silverware, paper towels, napkins, toilet paper, and ziploc bags.
*Stamps. There are so many thank you notes to send, and it’s nice to not have to run directly to the post office to get them. Plus, these slip into a card so easily, so if you live out of town, this is a great way to help!
*My sister-in-law’s sister brought us a gift bag of snack foods for the boys (even Gerber puffs for Jack Henry!) as well as a new DVD for them to watch. It was so thoughtful, and it kept them busy for a little bit while we were taking care of things.
Know what REALLY works for me? People taking care of each other when it’s needed, in whatever form that takes. Taking the time to send flowers or a card, especially one that you’ve written a Bible verse in, or a memory you have of the person who died, can really mean a lot to someone who is hurting.
For more tips, go to We are THAT Family.